Bullying – where to get help
Stopping bullying can be difficult. But there are things you can do, and help available, to stop it.
Bullying exists in many different places. As well as school, people sometimes bully at home, in the work place, or in other places like leisure centres of parks. But it doesn't need to happen, and in lots of places bullying doesn't happen at all. In all these places three things have happened:
- People found out that bullying was happening.
- Everyone was told that bullying is wrong.
- Everyone made a big effort to make sure the bullying stopped.
Bullying can only carry on when people put up with bad behaviour, or ignore what is going on. When everyone gets involved, you can stop bullying.
Anti-bullying tactics for everyone
For anti-bullying to be successful, everyone has to get involved. This means getting people to agree that bullying is wrong and commit to finding ways to stop it, including, for example, running workshops, doing exercises, or working with your school or college to put in place ways of managing bullying. Anti-bullying training usually means:
- Learning about how people get along, which can be very interesting and exciting, and look good to future employers too
- Changing how you think about conflict
- Learning how to mediate (help people sort out arguments without violence)
- Creating materials like these posters about anti-bullying, anti-cyberbullying, and personal safety, making leaflets, or contributing to training materials, policies and websites.
You might also find the info about In conflict with others? useful
Anti-bullying tactics for you
The most successful tactics to stop bullying involve everyone taking action together. But if you can't do this, there are still things you can do to take action against bullying.
Oxfordshire County Council's Anti-Bullying and Healthy Oxfordshire Schools teams have been working together to provide training, guidance and locally developed resources to help schools and other settings plan for Anti-Bullying Week and develop good practice all year round.
Anti-Bullying Pupil Voice Competitions: pupils from schools around Oxfordshire competed to produce the most effective anti-bullying media product, from YouTube videos to posters.
If you want to talk to someone about bullying, click on "chat live" or try one of these websites:
- Aik Saath helps young people deal with conflict in effective and non-violent ways.
- Beat Bullying – a website with lots of information, videos and online mentors to help you beat your bullying problem
- Childline has a special section of information and advice devoted to bullying. Counsellors are always there to listen and you can call them on 0800 1111 – last year bullying was the most common reason why children called.
- Childnet International, a non-profit organisation working with others to “help make the Internet a great and safe place for children"s
- Cybermentors - a website that offers information, help and advice on bullying, both online and off, with all mentors being young too.
- Don’t stick it is a website for young people with learning difficulties with advice for their parents or carers.
- Get Connected can help with most problems you may have. Visit the site, call the helpline (0808 808 4994) or e-mail for help: email@example.com.
- Gok's Teens: The Naked Truth. Gok Wan gives troubled teens the advice, confidence and self-belief they need to tackle their issues and anxieties including bullying
- Thinkuknow has tips on how to be safe while you are online.
- Young Stonewall has lots of info and resources on how schools can tackle homophobic bullying
- Older young people might also find it helpful to talk to the Samaritans
Please note that we are not responsible for the contents of other websites.
- thel-project.com aims to raise awareness about the effects of LGBT bullying, to give hope to those suffering from it, and to raise money to help combat it
You can also contact Jo Brown, Anti-Bullying Co-ordinator, for further information on 01865 815639 or e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org.
If you’re worried about bullying please tell someone you trust or phone Childline on 0800 1111.